Seeding compassion with the Dalai Lama

Practicing presence: The Dalai Lama listens intently, asks good questions, radiates love. P-I photo by Dan DeLong

This weekend Seattle hosted not only the Lost Angeles Angels baseball team (a mixed bag for those Mariners) but the Green Festival and – most auspicious – the Dalai Lama, a model for new leadership in our time.

On Friday I joined thousands of others at one of many events in which the Dalai Lama has enthusiastically participated -- part of a project called Seeds of Compassion.

My first response to the event I attended: profound disappointment in our lack of ability (or will) to engage with each other. Here were tens of thousands of intelligent, caring people in a sports arena. There to learn about compassion from a man who practices it beautifully. (Indeed, just being in the same space with him is a treat and a privilege.)

But despite one question from a speaker asking us to “think about what you can do” to foster compassion, there were NO opportunities for dialogue with each other. No “turn to the person next to you and tell about how compassion has played a role in your life,” or anything like that. It felt like a waste of potential learning and energy.

Plus, with the panel of mostly white experts on children, families and compassion, we and the Dalai Lama spent a good 20 minutes of the two-hour session looking together at videos of the panelists, made to bring alive what they do. It didn’t seem like the best use of our time. (Though I’m sure it makes good television – and the sessions are available to the world for viewing.)

The other sad part was that some of Seattle’s best facilitators and spiritual practitioners were waiting on Sunday afternoon to work with small groups to go deeper into the subject of compassion – but very few people showed up. The main reason: These sessions were not mentioned at the large events!

You can see some good, dynamic coverage of the Dalai Lama’s visit at the Seattle Times website. And you can read in the Seattle Post-Intelligencer about his amazing press conference. Talk about transparency! This guy lights up the room.

How many spiritual teachers do you know who basically say, “Don’t believe anything you hear until you test it for yourself. Analyze!”

When asked a question, he'd often give an eloquent answer and then say, "I don't know. What do you think?"